The beginning of the year is a time for planning. We set goals, create visions, and determine resolutions. We pave the way for our upcoming journey, excited and hopeful for what this new year can bring. We feel good; we feel like it’s a fresh start and anything is possible, that maybe this will be the year for miracles.
New Years resolutions have never worked for me in the past, and I think I have finally figured out why. Plans. Resolutions are all about the long term game-plan, the marathon, the far future. And as healthy as I think it is to set into motion a clear and paved path for the future, I’m not quite sold that this is the right way to go about it.This New Years Eve when midnight hit, I wasn’t thinking about my long-term game-plan, no new years resolutions or visions for the future. I looked into the eyes of my spectacular now and felt thankful. It hit me, hard. Being in that moment was a far better place to be than in any other “vision” of the future I could have.
I get it. The moment, this moment right now, seems to be the hardest place for us to be. We are wired to think and plan and envision what the future could have in store for us. ’Could’ being the keyword here. The future is one big conception that we have no control over. The future is one big could. New Years Resolutions are all could be’s and should be’s and sometimes need to be’s; but no resolution is… well, is what is. Our minds get lost in daydreams and we compare and contrast our lives to those around us. We feel pressure to live up to something that has nothing to do with anything, and yet we feel like it means everything. Why is this? Why do we let something as ungraspable as the future have such a power over us?
It takes work to be in the moment. Sounds ridiculous, I know, but it really is something that takes practice. The living and breathing moment is the hardest place to be, and yet, it’s all we have. It’s all that’s real. Make this new year not about the could be’s, should be’s and need to be’s, but about what is. The beautiful now.